Meik Schwalm
Licensed in GermanyHeilpraktiker für Psychotherapie · NARM
have already understood a great deal about themselves and still keep arriving at the same place. A pattern runs on, even though its origin is long known. Because understanding is rarely what resolves something.
What you fight in yourself once protected you. It usually formed early, out of need, at a time when you depended on people who should have been there for you. If you didn't get what you needed, you couldn't afford to see it. So it became a quiet "something is wrong with me." And a part of you stayed in the wrong, to this day. This work is not about optimising. We don't work on the story or on explanations, but with what is alive right now, in feeling and sensation. I hold the space, leave the lead with you, and stay when it gets difficult. The part that has felt in the wrong for so long may show itself, this time without being fought. Once that happens, the pattern loses its self-evidence. What was compulsion becomes choice. I work with the NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM), a body-oriented approach to what was missing over years in development and attachment. Unlike after a shock trauma, it doesn't go back to a single event but to a long absence, which is why it often stays invisible for so long.
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The eye I have for what lies beneath the surface is not something I read in a book. I have lived in very different worlds: in the corporate world, in my own therapeutic work, and, before I worked with people, as a singer on international opera stages. That is present today in how I accompany someone. I don't see a problem. I see something that made sense for a long time. I don't take anyone to places I haven't been myself.
Frequently asked questions
Who is this not for?
If you are looking for a quick solution or concrete advice for a single problem, I am not the right place for you. This work takes time and the willingness to look closely, rather than making something go away. It does not replace medical or psychiatric treatment: if you feel in danger or need acute medical help, that is the important first step, and I am happy to refer you to the right place. And if you expect me to tell you which way to go: I don't lead, I accompany.
In an acute crisis, please contact the free Telefonseelsorge helpline (0800 111 0 111, around the clock) or, in an emergency, call 112.
How do I know if it's a fit?
You'll notice it less in what I say than in how it feels to be in the room with me. Whether it grows quieter. Whether you can show something that usually has no place, without me explaining it away or judging it. If, after the first few times, you have the feeling that here I don't have to pull myself together, then it fits. Trust that feeling. And if I sense that someone else could accompany you better, I'll tell you honestly.
Ist das Therapie oder Coaching?
Es ist therapeutische Arbeit, kein Coaching. Ich arbeite als Heilpraktiker, beschränkt auf das Gebiet der Psychotherapie. Anders als beim Coaching gibt es kein Ziel, an dem Sie ankommen, sondern einen Prozess, der seine eigene Zeit braucht. Es geht nicht darum, ein Verhalten zu optimieren, sondern darum, dass ein altes Muster aufhört, Sie zu steuern.
Was, wenn ich gar nicht genau weiß, was mein Thema ist?
Das ist kein Hindernis, im Gegenteil. Viele kommen mit dem Gefühl, dass etwas nicht stimmt, ohne es benennen zu können. Sie müssen nicht vorher wissen, worum es geht. Wir fangen mit dem an, was jetzt da ist, und das Thema zeigt sich unterwegs. Oft wissen Sie längst, was Sie brauchen, bevor Sie es in Worte fassen können.
Wie lange dauert so ein Prozess?
Das lässt sich nicht vorher festlegen, und ich würde misstrauisch, wenn jemand es verspräche. Manche Themen lösen sich in wenigen Monaten, andere brauchen länger. Wir schauen nach jeder Phase gemeinsam, wo Sie stehen. Sie bestimmen das Tempo, und Sie hören auf, wenn es sich stimmig anfühlt, nicht, wenn eine vorgegebene Stundenzahl erreicht ist.
How often do sessions take place?
We set the rhythm by what you're dealing with, not by a fixed schedule, and we adjust it when something changes. Some come weekly, some once to four times a month. I'm flexible in both directions: closer together when a phase calls for it, further apart when things hold.
How does the free intro call work?
You send Meik a message directly from this page and get a personal reply.
Online or in person?
Meik works online and in person in Bielefeld.
What does a session cost?
Sessions are self-pay — you receive an invoice after each session.
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